I’m very fortunate to be on holidays at our local ski hill with my family this week. Today I went out with my 13-year-old daughter and some others. My daughter and I have similar ski skills but she is much more interested in skiing the “black diamond runs”.
Today was a perfect day for me to experience the unexpected. We ran into some crazy weather, various ski expectations in the group, and in the end, the run that was to take us back to our condo, closed, with only a “black diamond” run option in front of me.
At other times, I might have become quite irritable with the way things went, but found myself following the three ideas below and have returned for lunch with a very sunny attitude. I have to admit that it really was the kids in the group who showed us the very best way of being!
So, the next time you find yourself in an unexpected (and perhaps unwelcomed spot), try these first and see what happens for you!
1. Find Gratitude
In most situations, you can find a silver lining – if you look for it. Keep an open mind and ask the question, “what can I be grateful for here”? At the top of one of the chair lifts, the wind and snow were blowing so hard that we weren’t sure if we’d be able to get off the lift. “It’s so beautiful here,” I heard from my daughter with a smile in her voice. And that gratitude took the sting of everything else away!
2. Jump In
The worst time in an unexpected situation is often just as it happens; even before we’ve had a chance to do anything. Many of us freeze at this point and begin to get caught up in “What If…?” and “Why Me…?”. But more often than not, if we actively stop that train of thinking and jump into the situation, the outcome is usually way better than we might have imagined! Today, when we found ourselves with only one way to go – down a steep and unexpected trail, I could have stood at the top and let my mood take me down. Instead, I watched as Alexa headed down the slope, took a deep breath, and followed her. While not my preferred choice, I made a choice to jump in and see what might happen, without judgement. And it worked – when I got to the bottom, I felt proud that I hadn’t stopped myself before I started!
3. Be Ok with Imperfection
How often has it happened in your life that you’ve held yourself back from doing something because you didn’t have the confidence that it would be perfect? Being ok with imperfection is about purposefully letting go of that idea. If you find yourself in this situation, close your eyes and take 3 deep breaths. With each breath say: “action is more important than perfection”. Then open your eyes and start. If I had been worried about looking perfect on that ski run, I would still be standing there now! Say that mantra and go! You’ll thank yourself for it in the long run!
Remember, even though I’ve been using skiing as my example (e.g. personal life), these tips are effective in your work life as well! Give them a try this week and let me know what happens for you! You can email me at firstname.lastname@example.org or leave a comment below.
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