Who is my Inner Critic and what is it's point?
If you’re human (which I presume you are, since you are reading this message :) ), you have an “Inner Critic”...AKA saboteur, gremlin, etc.
I know you have one if you’re human, because the Inner Critic or “IC” is actually universal and has to do with keeping us SAFE in this otherwise dangerous world! This a very well evolved safety instinct, and is often very subtle.
Before I go into the ways to recognize if your “IC” is going wild, I want you to know that one of the main outcomes of the “IC” is self-doubt.
Ever had self doubt?
I have spent long stretches of my life stalled by self-doubt – with thoughts like “I’m not good enough, smart enough, I don’t have enough friends, I’ll never be successful” rising to the surface more times than I care to imagine.
When I began my coach training, I learned about the “IC”, and since then, I’ve taken lots of opportunities to expand my understanding.
At one point I even thought I had mastered it – the “IC” wasn’t going to impact me anymore!! Well that was naïve!
The point of the “IC” is to come out whenever you try something new!
Fortunately, if you can notice your “IC”, you can then name it. Once you’ve named it, you can decide how you want to proceed – maybe you need to talk things through with someone, meditate, take action, or maybe something else. The point is: start with noticing.
So how might your own personal “IC” show up? Here are 4 things to pay attention to:
For example, I have a voice inside my head called Fred. He doesn’t show up there as much these days now that I can notice him more easily. Right now, the “IC” behaviour I’m just starting to notice is the “you’re not ready yet” voice – this one has been emerging as I’m developing new things in my business.
While we can never get rid of the Inner Critic because it will be there simply by being human, we can take action to lessen its impact. In my coaching sessions with clients, as the Inner Critic emerges we focus on it and form strategies to counteract it.
I encourage you to spend some time this week noticing where your “IC” shows up. Don’t worry if you can’t recognize it right away – sometimes it takes a bit. Once you start to see it, see if you can give it a name.
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