I’ll never forget the day I burst into tears when I was asked the simple question, “What’s for dinner, Mom?”
You can only imagine the look on my child’s face when she saw my reaction. And I suddenly found myself sobbing while sitting on the ground, my daughter trying to comfort me.
What had happened? Something terrible? Something unspeakable?
From the outside, I had a perfect life. A supportive spouse, two amazing kids, a beautiful house, a good job.
But I had reached a point of exhaustion. Trying to keep up with all the expectations I’d layered on myself. And then I made things even worse by layering shame and guilt on top of the exhaustion – because why couldn’t I manage as well as or better than everyone else I knew?
Fast forward some time and reflection…
Since then I have realized that I was also suffering from something else – something completely human – called “Decision Fatigue”. My job, home life, parenting, being a partner, owning a small business – it was all filled with decisions to be made. All day every day, and that day I just fell apart.
Ever heard of or experienced decision fatigue? While I don’t always refer to Wikipedia, I thought their page on decision fatigue was useful.
Essentially, humans have a limited ability to make decisions each day, and when your life requires that you make decision after decision, both big and small (if you’ve ever shopped in the cereal or yogurt aisle you know about too many small decisions :) ) it is easy to end up experiencing a decision exhaustion, which ironically can end up resulting in things like:
To limit your risk of decision fatigue, take these relatively easy ideas from some successful others (e.g. Steve Jobs and Barack Obama) and see where you can make less decisions:
I hope that this info helps you as much as it did me when I first heard about decision fatigue. It is one of the things that helped me to springboard into a simpler life. I’d love to hear your thoughts.
PS. At the end of my summer holidays, I had a chance to listen to a speaker whose blog I have grown to love.
I was really excited to learn that Courtney Carver from Be More With Less was going to be in Victoria BC on her Tiny Wardrobe Tour while I was there as well!
She was talking about her Project 333 Challenge – where people are challenged to have 33 items or less in their wardrobe for 3 months, including all clothing, jewelry, accessories AND shoes, with a full shopping ban on fashion for the 3 months.
(NOTE: this doesn’t include underwear, sleepwear or workout clothes – unless you wear those clothes for your day to day work – e.g. you’re a yoga teacher).
Yes, that’s right – 33 items in total! I was totally inspired when I heard her speak about the lessons she learned from the experience herself!
I’m sharing because I think that this idea is one that will be helpful with further reducing decision fatigue!
I won’t go into the details of how to do the challenge – if it sounds appealing or interesting to you, check out the link above. I will be starting the challenge this next month, though, and will let you know how it is going. If you want to join me, email me! Having an accountability partner always makes things easier and more fun!
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